I found the following pieces of advice while searching for something for a friend, and thought they were great reminders not only to myself but to any woman at any point in her life.

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Go for the guy that makes you feel like you are more important to him then the air in his lungs and the stars in his sky; the guy who makes you feel on top of the world is the one who will keep you there.

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11 Things Every Girl Should Hold Out For

1. A guy who can make you smile...Some things in life are not funny. Can he make you at least chuckle when the chips are down?

2. A guy who will laugh at your jokes and "get" you...He might not understand you perfectly on the first date, but if you think you're funny at tall, I hope he gets that and appreciates it about you.

3. A guy who will attend your lame "things"...Adult dance recital, Mom's birthday party? Find the guy who will go to something boring even though he will get nothing out of it- he'll go for you.

4. A guy who will do nothing with you...And I mean nothing, if you're feeling low-energy, anti-social, or blah, can he sit and do nothing with you or does he always leave you on the couch and go party with the guys? And could you two entertain each other on a deserted island or while stuck in traffic.

5. A guy who will give you a thoughtful gift or card...not every time, obviously, but I would hope he would have his moments of showing you he has thought about you.

6. A guy who will say he loves you...I do not care about his made-up theory that love is just a social construct or what have you. Hold out for someone who can and will say it. Also, he shouldn't say it just because you want him to; he should say it because it feels good to say it.

7. A guy you respect...Does he have a good head on his shoulders? Does he like his job? Is he proud of himself?

8. A guy you have good chemistry with...He doesn't have to be Jude Law, but you should be attracted enough so that every time you have an argument, you will be motivated (by your underlying desire for him)to work it out.

9. A guy who agrees with you about travel...If you have wanderlust and he never wants to leave his hometown, don't compromise by staying with him long-term and staying home. It's fine to be a homebody, but if you're interested in exploring, find a guy with the travel bug. Otherwise, you'll look back one day when you're too old, tired or broke and you'll wish you had seen the world.

10. A guy with similar family goals...Don't compromise on whether or not you'll have kids. If you want them, find a guy who does.

*and the most important one*

11. Wait for a guy who sees you the way you want to be seen...He thinks you're smart, funny, beautiful, and powerful-ALWAYS. Even on days when you can't believe any of that about yourself.

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Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep...wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have you....the one who will turn to his friend and say "that's her".

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